As a mom, society expects me to be the default parent. My husband is just as capable as I am.
Hi, I’m Alli..
Clear-eyed. Sharp-tongued. Highly caffeinated.
Writer and speaker on modern work, caregiving, and identity.
Six months after my daughter was born, I checked into an intensive program for postpartum depression. Since then I’ve been writing, speaking, and building toward one goal: to make the messy parts of life —parenting, ambition, identity— feel a little less lonely and a lot more human.
Where You’ve Seen Me
Stories That Start Conversations
The post-vacation survival guide
Stop being a martyr at work. Aim for sustainable success instead
5 Ways You’re Sabotaging Yourself as a Working Parent, And How to Stop
“Forget quiet quitting: I’m using ‘loud living’ to redefine workplace boundaries”
“Motherhood Erased My Name, and I’d Like It Back”
“Having kids changed the way I approach work. I apologize less and have hard stops that are non negotiable.”
“Postpartum depression left me isolated—here’s how I built a village for moms”
“Having kids changed the way I approach work. I apologize less and have hard stops that are non negotiable.”
You’re Not the Same Person—And That’s the Point
A candid take on identity shifts after caregiving and big life changes.
Caregiving doesn’t just change your schedule — it changes who you are. In this keynote, Alli Kushner explores the identity shifts that follow big life changes and reframes them as evolution, not setbacks. Through honest storytelling and practical insights, she shows audiences how to lead, collaborate, and thrive with empathy.
Follow the Zigs and Zags
Because the straight path is a myth —and the good stuff lives in the twists.
Parenthood. Startups. Burnout. Reinvention.
Honest reflections and hard-earned lessons from the messy middle —delivered straight to your inbox.